Find your ‘happy’ with hypnotherapy

Happiness? What exactly is it? I think we all know there’s not a ‘one size fits all’.

Clients come to sort their ‘happy’ out, to restore it or to find it for the first time. Some don’t expect it but are thrilled when they find it. They come for hypnotherapy or reflexology. It’s the best ‘chill pill’ to reduce stress and find relaxation your mind needs.

Happiness can be a feeling of relief – great when you’ve overcome a problem or worry and you’re one step up the ladder. (life is full of ups and downs). However we can choose how to look at a problem or step on the ladder – it is a lot about your own choice. Life is really a series of steps, hopefully more up than down.

If you decide, for instance, to join a dance group or class activity or even take up gardening club you take a step up the ladder and find equipment to do the activity so this presents another set of interesting steps up. Eventually you have all the ‘things’ you need to do the activity and you begin, maybe slightly nervously to begin but then you get into the swing of it and, I guess, either love it or list it! Our reality is about taking those upward steps bit by bit.

Your thoughts are bubbling away – they always will and you know you can chose a way to deal with them. There will always be negotiations on the life of a step ladder. There is a safety net if you feel a bit uncertain and I can help you with that.

Happiness is something you can’t honestly buy or take off a shelf. It has to be ‘felt’. It’s an emotion, it’s always work in progress, it’s an activity as mentioned above.

So to be happy we have to work at it – yes. However for some life isn’t easy and there are many ladders to climb before they reach the light. Many people are in a sort of denial about the crap in their life anyway. It’s too hard to bring it up and deal with it. It’s hard work but taking one step at a time to free yourself is key.

Others believe ‘this is me and that’s how I am’. So sad, especially when there is a way forward, just by opening up and trusting yourself or going to a support group, good friend (who probably won’t judge you or think you’re a failure even though your mind thinks she will) maybe your parent?

Write about what this happy/nice/elevated/cheerful/delighted (yes a Theasurus is great) ‘feeling’ is and what difference a spot of this would make to your daily life. Many people draw and colour this picture of ‘felt’. For some it’s easier and takes the pressure off writing it.

At least do something because if you seriously want to get out of your rut and become unstuck (it is a safe free place) and look at life with a different set of lenses you have to put in a bit of work. Rome wasn’t built in a day!

Give me a call – 07801 371246 or via the contact page. Do one thing to take you on that upward ladder.

It’s true that if you keep repeating the same old routine or habit then you’re going to get the same stuff back. Change your mind a little and you change your life – bit by bit to what you really want (not talking about lottery win or big house – this is about your window on your world) 🙂 Mel


Where has January already gone?

Apart from New Year in France with family it’s been happily hectic with work until 14th when I started with a vile cold and it’s still lingering today 21st.  Never mind, it’s a beautiful sunny day and that always puts me in an optimistic mindset.

I have some BRIEF therapy training to do at the end of the week and looking through my notebook – I’ve got a few, not an obsession just love beautiful colours and writing!  I decided to blog about the brain – of course………………..

Photo by Alexander Hafemann on Unsplash  .   I found this pic which perfectly shows reality……..


Imagine your mind is an iceberg.  That lovely white bit on the top measures approx 10%.  Think of it as your conscious mind – this is the bit where we stop and consider choices or thoughts and deal with them in control and correctly.  We behave is a way that is effective for us and our ‘tribe’ around us.

Now lets imagine the bigger bottom part of the iceberg.  All sorts of rubbish get stuck in here.  That a whopping 90% of old stuff, learnt behaviours, misguided beliefs, old limitations.

😊Good news is that lots of s/conscious patterns keep us alive.  It’s there for our survival after all.

e.g. if someone or something comes out in front of your car – faster than a nanosecond, your s/conscious mind is on the brakes – phew!

😒  However there are others that we store and hide without realising it

e.g. panic, anxiety, stress, fears, phobias, traumas.

Solution focused hypnotherapy uses a wonderful altered state of awareness – you know what it’s like trying to watch a tv programme but gently ‘nodding off’.  You hear the programme but you don’t see it.  Bit like a warm comfy feeling.

Do you remember things you do everyday like the details on your daily commute, honestly remembering each plate you washed up?  Chances are you were ‘miles away’ – a nice place to be for most of us, maybe – at this time of year loving the idea of being somewhere sunny and hot.  Maybe thinking about what you’ll serve for supper tonight, that walk you plan, getting together with friends?

In this altered state of awareness – trance your mind can calm down and feel quite relaxed and sleepy

This allows me to use some lovely language patterns – like the tv programme, your subconscious mind hears but your eyes don’t see.  You can visualise if that suits you.  Your choice which we can talk through. I will use whatever objectives you want to see as your preferred way forward – freeing the weight from your shoulders

By doing this it enables you to create positive changes you want and ditch the outdated, wearisome stuff you don’t want anymore.

You are in control of everything – there is no stage stuff going on here.  Always happy to talk with you about treatment and I’ll tell you how it helped me!!

Enjoy the sunshine this morning and thanks for reading 😊

Mel x